Alcoholics Anonymous Blog/Video August 25 DonInLondon Step 8 "Amends And Willing"
August 25, 2013: "my own personal madness: a self-inflicted hell, by doing the same things over and over again. I did believe that ethics were important back in the day." Being ethical in an unethical situation, where you or I try to behave in an open honest and willing fashion, when the rest of the world it seems is doing the opposite means I am in the wrong place, with the wrong people and doing the wrong things. Being right, open, honest and willing and fair when everybody else is thinking and acting in a different way will make you realise you really are better off letting go and moving on.
Listening to a friend in Fellowship talking about the good Wolf and the bad Wolf. Sitting on each shoulder, a Wolf. We can feed the good Wolf, feeding it with courage to change, faith in doing the next right thing and developing confidence by making mistakes and learning from them. We can feed the bad Wolf, with our fear, pride and ego which keeps a person isolated, judgemental and fearful of being found out or fearful of other people's prejudice. In this story of good Wolf and bad Wolf, the bad Wolf is about feeding and believing in our defects of character, where pride fear and ego keep us alone and full of blame. The good Wolf, fed with courage, faith and confidence, keeps us on an open honest and willing path of learning.
The bad Wolf wants power, the bad Wolf wants to be in control and the bad Wolf takes us back into the world of pain and a world where we think we should be in control and masterful. The good Wolf is happy to roam free of the burden of power and control, to experience life in the fall, courageous, having faith and self-esteem based on new experiences and involvement in good enterprises whatever they may be. The bad Wolf needs revenge, the good Wolf forgiveness.
Do I really understand the difference between step six and step seven? How many other people really understand the difference between step six and step seven? And why do some people prefer that defects and shortcomings are the same thing when they are not? And are they really the same thing after all, defects and shortcomings?
Do I really understand that I need to really understand step six and step seven before doing step eight? If I don't understand step six and step seven, how on earth can I make a list of amends and be willing to make them? Only time and endeavour will give me the answer?
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